I found my best friend and a lot hotter wife than my first wife when we divorced. It can, and probably will get that much better for you.

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I learned years ago when we hit a bumpy patch, when issues arise in a marriage - it almost always has to do with unresolved issues with my own soul or hers. People cannot live beyond their own belief system. Everyone thinks marriage makes you happy. The truth is that a marriage will sometimes be filled with joy and other times sorrow. It is so easy to quit one now. The hardest part is staying committed to each other. Seasons come and seasons go. Times when things were bad, sticking it out often made our marriage stronger and more rewarding when things were good.

Seen a lot of people this year, screaming at each other over the phone. Guy outside a bank was screaming at his wife. Bills needed to be paid and she was putting pressure on him and he lost his shucks. His window was down. There was so much pain listening to it - hell, I wanted to get some extra cash out of the ATM and give it to him. Biden has done the devil's work. The devil wants to destroy every marriage, every family and Satan will use anything he can. The past 12 years, we have seen so much radical change with the gay BS and transgender BS with our kids.

About the only advice I can give a young couple is go to church. If you are both humbled by the Lord, or even better focused on him, then it has a chance.

I filed 5yrs ago, went through a terrible divorce. Ran out of my own house and lost everything I had. I got my kid, my dog and house back and raised him alone full-time since he was 7. He will be 13 in 2 months. Me, dog and kid live a peaceful life and I will never get married again cause these modern women don't know what respect is. They get bored and act stupid. Court system rewards women for bad behavior and that's something inexperienced first hand and I will never risk my assets, freedom and my kids future and peace for a woman ever again. Stay single and mingle. Keep a few close friends around and a few respectable females to go see if you get desperate and enjoy your freedom, job, money and peace.

Our government has neutered all married men and stripped us from our roles. We are 2nd class citizens in our own home. If you don't believe me just stop kissing her ass and see where you end up.

We went from being the man of the house to bring the little kid. Kings no longer exist. We used to kill animals with our bare hands and now we are at the mercy of women and underneath their thumb. That's why I will never put myself in that position again. It's a thankless job set up for the men to lose. This ain't the 1950s anymore.. women have all the power and they abuse it.

mercy, comfort, and healing ...

I will keep you and your daughter in prayer, I have been there and know that God brought me through it and allowed me to get back on my feet.......it's tough when you are going through the storm though....

Well stated sir.

Divorce is only good for the party that wants it.

Praying for you. When things like this happen, two things happen.. you either get closer to God or Further away from God. Find a good church family raise that youngin in church and seek God. The rest will work itself out.


Proverbs 3:5: "Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding"

That’s exactly what I’m doing I told myself when this started I could go one way or the other and I’m choosing the right way

Can't lose that way... no matter what the scoreboard looks like..

Sucks. Went thru it in my late 20's.
Almost 30 yrs later and if i could go back in time i wouldnt change a thing. Much better off that it happened. Seems like the end of the world now but the hurt will go away in time.

My wife and I have been married 47 years. Started dating senior year in high school. We are 68 now. Raised two fine boys here on the farm. At around year 27 or so, she came to me one day and said she was not happy. (I had taken a superintendent job over a new plant and it was a lot of work to get up and running correctly. She knew that going in and I spent a lot of time training and getting it going). I stopped her and said I cannot make you happy. No one on earth can make you happy. Only your relationship with God the Father through Jesus Christ can make you really happy inside. Happiness that lasts. She just said ok. Came to me a few days later and said, " You are correct". We studied and grew together. Lot of prayer over that one. When the relationship is based on Christ and not the things of the world, it makes all the difference in the world.

Not in my household. My wife and I have been married 20 years and I can count the number of disagreements we have had on one hand. We both discuss everything that goes on in our house and the final decision is made from those discussions. There is no ass kissing that goes on in our house. My wife has told me a couple of times over the years that she is glad she can't push me around. I don't push her around either.

We both grew up in church and our marriage is centered around God and godly principles. I know I am very fortunate and that my marriage is an extreme anomally even within my own family. Not in all cases but a lot of marriages fail because of pure selfishness. I couldn't imagine being stuck in a bad marriage and feel for people that are.

I went through mine about 23 years ago, I didn't want it, I was raised, "For better or worse," but I had a part, I wasn't the same man I am today. I was having an awful time with it, loosing a wife and daughter from the home, until I talked to a preacher. I was telling him that I couldn't forgive her for what she was doing, yep, third party. He told me to go home and ask God to forgive her and for me to start working on it. That was the first peaceful nights sleep I had had for almost a year. It took a while to forgive her, but peace did come. I will say this, I prayed specifically for what I wanted in my second wife, it took 8 years before He brought her to me, but he answered everything I asked for from Him. It took me changing too into more of the man I am today. Use this time to get into more of a relationship with Him.

I live in Lake View. PM me, Let's go hunting and forget about this mess for a while

I am in Lake View as well and going through the same thing as you. Shoot me a PM and I'll give you my number if you want to talk. This is a hill to climb, but not one you have to do alone.

Thanks again guys I know now I wasn’t the spiritual leader my house needed I made attempts at it but couldn’t get her to go along and I felt incomplete In church without her I know that isn’t right but at the time I gave up to easy I can look back and wished I’d done a lot of things differently but I know that doesn’t get me anywhere

So Sorry to hear. I’ve been in your shoes. Same excuse from my ex. She is currently on her third marriage and still not happy. I am on my second marriage 24 years with two wonderful daughters. There are better days ahead. Hang in there.

Divorce sux. I hope you are able to find someone who values and loves you. It takes two people that are willing to lay down everything for the other person. Without that it isn't really worth much.