Might as well just cut your losses and get gone. If she's 22 and still chooses to live in that environment it most likely means that she will leave you sometime down the road for some dude that dog cusses her and slaps her around a bit.
Some folks just live that way.

Yep

x3..Had a similar experience with one of my old girlfriends.I got in the middle of family issues, and all it did was bite me in the arse..She ended up turning it around on me like I was the problem

Imagine that

Leaving aint the option for me, ive thought about it, and prayed about it more, and shes meant for me! Im just goin to stay away from the "in laws". Thats all i know to do as of now! Thanks to everyone that put there two cents in! I really appreciate it and took them all into consideration

All kidding aside if she is important to you stick with it and do what's right.

Well u do what u thinks best..But I got out of that situation, and I'm sure glad I did..Cause I've got a great wife & 2 good kids now..And the last I heard about that ex her and her husband live with her parents..Man I feel sorry for that dude

I know you think it's the right plan, but it may not be. There are many many many many years of wisdom on this board, listen to them. If it is that bad it will likely get worse.

Son I'm no expert on women but I have to agree with the folks sayin the drama ain't worth it. Really ... Now that I'm older, my hindsight really is 20-20 and those women that brought drama into my life weren't worth the 'benefits' I got from dating them. In fact, I'd rather just take care of myself then be with another crazy frickin woman.

Don't get me wrong ... ALL WOMEN ARE CRAZY to some extent. But, there are some that are tired of the drama or never cared for it ... Find one like that that is into you and ditch the drama queen.

Not to mention ... WHERE THERE'S SMOKE THERE'S FIRE ... meaning that she is 99% likely to be part of that nasty little family problem and she is hiding it from you. It's just a matter of time before she let's her hair down and it becomes a real issue between you and her. Right now she's on her best behavior in front of you, you are just seeing what SHE WANTS YOU TO SEE NOT THE REAL HER

She needs to call the police if they lay a hand on her and pursue the charges. You do not need to get involved. You hit one of them and you will go to jail. You hit the 15 year old and they will charge you with a felony.

All I'll say is that look at the situation as it is now. Knowing that it will never improve, are you willing to contend with that for the rest of your life? If so, then go back to it and you don't need our advice. Just know it's not your responsibility to save her. If y'all love each other, get married, move away, get into church and surround yourself with good people. But do it now. Based on what I know about these situations, it's a long standing family tradition and only when a person leaves, and I mean for good, will the cycle be broken. Staying close to this situation will bring you more grief and stress than you can imagine.

And my friend, should you leave, don't let the devil fill you with guilt. You are not responsible for her. She has a mind and freewill. Y'all talk and if she's not willing to leave NOW, then you have a decision to make. Sometimes God is telling you to walk away. Perhaps he's got someone else in store for you that will bring peace and harmony to your life instead of constant chaos. That's not his plan.

Good luck man. Prayers to you.

Dr. B

^^^ THIS

you know what they say about the viscosity of blood and water.

Dr. B

Do what you think is right. I will say that these people will never allow you to have peace. If she isn't willing to cut all ties with them right now then get the hell out of there. It's not worth the problems you will have down the road.

I didn't read every post, but I DO NOT agree with calling the police. Stay away or whatever you need to do, but if you call the police, it gets personal. The kinda personal that you don't recover from. Your both adults, make your own decisions, and the 15 yr old is a kid. He's liable to say or do anything. If she stays under that roof, she's subject to whatever goes on there. Sounds pretty rough though.

How long have you two been dating? She won't show her true self until a year or year and a half. Don't get her pregnant until after that and only if you get married.

You may be in love or think you are in love but make sure she has the qualities you want in a life long friend and partner, not just a body you want now.

When you want to breed good stock, you start with good breeding stock. Think about that for a while and think about what kind of children you will produce with her. There's a good reason that old men tell young men to look at the mother to see what you will have in 20 years.

Run.........run fast.

Maybe this will help.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RTiyLuZOs1A

We been together almost 3.5 years now! I know who sge is and what she stands for and she is true to me as i am to her! I trust her everyword, if she told me a rooster would pull a freight train id go grab the harnness! Shes a full time student in nursing, she works part time and dont make much. I on the other hand am full time with an electrical/plumbing contractor and make good money but it will take two of my paychecks to make it comfortably... And i dont want to start out strugglin to keep the ac on! Im lost, im angry (not at her). I want to get her out but sm afraid of failing in life