Hell everybody starts out struggling some struggle there whole lives. I take it you live at home? It's past time you move out of your parents house anyway

For real, thats a tough situation. If you're absolutely certain that she is the one, and you have carried this to the lord and have his approval, then by all means, grab her up, say "I do", and live within your means even if its a little uncomfortable. Just be ready to take on the responsibility before you. And put some distance between You and all of the drama. You have faith and our Creator will see that you get by. Once She gets her degree, you will be fine. I wish the best for you two, and I'll send a prayer to the Good Master about it to. This will only work out if you are both committed and keep faith in God. You're gonna need him.

Maybe i havent painted a pretty picture for my girl, but she is a great girl... Her step dads an asshole from hell, and he is the problem! He controls her mother and she sides with him no matter how morally wrong he is! She isnt fake i know what she wants out of life and who she is, first big issue that pissed me off was she had to have her gallbladder taken out it was making her sick everyday... Anyways they told her after all was said and done with that she had to pay the med bills off cuz she was a big girl and that she wanted it taken out! 1800 is what she had to pay and of course i helped her... Ive bought school books ive paid for classes ive put tires on her car... Paid insurance payments.... Done it all basically her family dont support her financily anyway! But yet they wanna rule her and tell her that her priorities aint right because she will b studyin for a test instead of helpin at the family firework stand. Im tryin to help her watch her money and save every week and they say i control her and tell her she cant buy sonethin. All i do is advise her she has a payment this week and sees that she doesnt miss it or not have the money

Its too much stuff to go in depth on i hope yall get the jist of it

I am not passing judgement because I don't know the specifics. I will just say that I see red flags all over. In my mind, a person that actively participates in an argument is almost as bad as the person that started the argument. Everyone knows that these type of arguments rarely resolve anything. Why would your gf participate in such? I understand they are family so he has to take a certain amount of their crap but it also says that her conflict resolution skills are pretty low. Red flags.

I know you're inclined to support her. If you truly want it to work long term, you need to let her know that you want NO part of that. If she gets in an argument with them, she need not call you. You want nothing but peace and happiness and refuse to let others bring you down. If she loves you, she'll understand and accept this. If she's as crazy as the parents, she won't understand and she'll be mad at you. If you continue to run to her defense in these matters, prepare yourself for a lifetime of it. The best relationship advice I ever got was from a wise old lady I used to work with. She said: "Don't start what you can't keep up."

If you're already supporting her with medical bills and school, what's the hold up on marrying her? It sounds like you're paying her and your way anyway. I don't know of one single person who got married at your age who was in perfect financial shape. The money will be the least of your worries if you stay around this situation.

See how committed she is. If she's willing to cut all ties with her family and move away with you now, keep her. If not, you need to break away. Your world will be better in time. It's not your obligation to save her from something she's unwilling to save herself from. The advice given here is from folks who know where you are in life. None of us want to see you come back on here when the world implodes because you were young and fell in love with a girl from a dysfunctional family and you got caught up in it.

There is enough wisdom on this site to listen to. Sometimes you gotta listen to the brain and not the heart. She sounds like a lovely girl but in a bad situation. Seek Godly and wise counsel. No one on this site is judging you but there are plenty that have been in your shoes. For those that stuck by the girl, it didn't end well for them in the vast majority of cases. Best of luck.

Dr. B

Her family sounds jealous because she's trying to achieve more in life and, likely, is happier than they are.

IF y'all got married or decided to get her out of there, you best have a plan to move far away and get away from them to start your lives.

I wasn't trying to bash her, just giving general advice that I would give to any young man.

All you need is to make sure she is willing to get away from the family. As soon as she starts full time nursing, she will be fine financially.

Sounds like you have known her long enough to know her, but I still advise against supporting her until you both are married. It's just good advice no matter who I was giving it to.

Does she want to get married, do you? I'll marry ya'll after a couple counseling sessions.Do the right thing. It's always scary but you sound committed to me. How does she feel about marriage?