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Question about age and children...
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01/09/15 10:47 AM
01/09/15 10:47 AM
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Joined: Feb 2013
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Anniston, AL
ikillbux
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Anniston, AL
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How old are you, and how old are your children? To explain why I ask, I'm 40 and my wife is 39. We've been married 20 years this May. We have two daughters who are 19 and 16.
We find it hard to find friends in the same place in life that we are. And by hard, I mean impossible. All the couples around our age in church have little bitty kids, some are still having babies. It's just a grind to develop relationships, especially for my wife, because we have the freedom to do as we please, but everybody else is wholly consumed with their young kids. When we have the Sunday school over for parties, my wife will often sit in there with the guys because all the other women just want to talk about "baby stuff". Or they're so distracted by their kids that they never stay long, and they really don't engage in adult conversations while they are there.
For me, I want to go hunting or fishing, but all my friends want to bring their small children with them. And that's fine and good, but again it's tough to have adult relationships that aren't basically about other folks' kids. Or they can't or don't go hunting or fishing much anymore because they have small children.
Just feels like we're in an odd place in our lives, like we're oddballs. Just wondering if anybody else is in our shoes? Can't decide if we're too young or too old? LOL
Last edited by ikillbux; 01/09/15 10:48 AM.
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Re: Question about age and children...
[Re: ikillbux]
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01/09/15 10:57 AM
01/09/15 10:57 AM
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Northport, AL
GomerPyle
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Northport, AL
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I'm 29, wife 27. Kids are 3 and 1.
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Re: Question about age and children...
[Re: ikillbux]
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01/09/15 11:03 AM
01/09/15 11:03 AM
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Posts: 4,273
Marshall County
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How old are you, and how old are your children? To explain why I ask, I'm 40 and my wife is 39. We've been married 20 years this May. We have two daughters who are 19 and 16.
We find it hard to find friends in the same place in life that we are. And by hard, I mean impossible. All the couples around our age in church have little bitty kids, some are still having babies. It's just a grind to develop relationships, especially for my wife, because we have the freedom to do as we please, but everybody else is wholly consumed with their young kids. When we have the Sunday school over for parties, my wife will often sit in there with the guys because all the other women just want to talk about "baby stuff". Or they're so distracted by their kids that they never stay long, and they really don't engage in adult conversations while they are there.
For me, I want to go hunting or fishing, but all my friends want to bring their small children with them. And that's fine and good, but again it's tough to have adult relationships that aren't basically about other folks' kids. Or they can't or don't go hunting or fishing much anymore because they have small children.
Just feels like we're in an odd place in our lives, like we're oddballs. Just wondering if anybody else is in our shoes? Can't decide if we're too young or too old? LOL Maybe you're just an oddball?  I'm 35, wife is 31. Kids are 6 and 3 months.
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Re: Question about age and children...
[Re: ikillbux]
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01/09/15 11:20 AM
01/09/15 11:20 AM
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My wife and I are both 46 and have a 17 year old at home. He's a junior and looking to move off to college in the summer of next year. He's good to stay home while we go out and enjoy each other's company and companionship.
I play in two, sometimes three band's in the Birmingham area, so we get to go out a lot.
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Re: Question about age and children...
[Re: ikillbux]
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01/09/15 11:33 AM
01/09/15 11:33 AM
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Semmes, AL
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I'm 34, wife is 32. Kids, 7 & 6. For me, I want to go hunting or fishing, but all my friends want to bring their small children with them. And that's fine and good, but again it's tough to have adult relationships that aren't basically about other folks' kids. Or they can't or don't go hunting or fishing much anymore because they have small children. IMHO, these folks have their priorities right. Don't fault them for being the kind of parents they need to be. My wife & I found ourselves in a similar situation, except we were the first of our group of friends to start having kids. I caught a bunch of flack about not doing this or that anymore. Now that they are all having kids, they get it. Maybe it's just been so long since your kids were small that you've forgotten? Also, we've started doing our Sunday School class get-togethers earlier in the evening... like 3pm. That way, everyone can relax and enjoy adult company and still be back home before the babysitter gets into OT.
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Re: Question about age and children...
[Re: ikillbux]
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01/09/15 11:36 AM
01/09/15 11:36 AM
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Luverne, AL
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Just get a young girlfirend and have a baby with her, then you can be part of the hip crowd again.
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Re: Question about age and children...
[Re: ikillbux]
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01/09/15 11:37 AM
01/09/15 11:37 AM
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Central Alabama
Yelp softly
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Did you and your wife have friends before you got married? It sounds like you're looking for friends and I was just wondering what happened to your old ones. Don't get me wrong, I know people lose contact and some friends come and go as your life changes phases but a good friend is something to be treasured. I know I have a few friends that I need to look up and reconnect with. I didn't intentionally lose touch with them, it just happened.
"When there was no fowl, we ate crawdad, when there was no crawdad, we ate sand."
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Re: Question about age and children...
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01/09/15 12:11 PM
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I have a simple solution to your problem.....have some more kids.
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