I don't think you have to want gay marriage to be legal to show respect to gay folks in your daily life. It seems to me that we make more divisions between ourselves when we decide that we can't see eye to eye on anything based on one issue. Whether you think being gay is a choice or is hard wired, why waste energy hating gay folks? If you raise your children to have strong moral values, to respect their parents, to work for the things they want, and to keep their lives family centered, i think they'll be ok. Gay and lesbian stuff is the hot topic right now. The focus on it in our culture will fade to something else.