Physically controlling and moving away from the incorrect behavior can work.

Some kids only respond to spanking, some kids respond well to restrictions, and occasionally, some kids can be controlled/disciplined by simply speaking firmly. The last ones are rare.

My great-nephew is stubborn. I can discipline him, but he doesn't comply until I wrap him up in a bear hug and immobilize him. Once he realizes it's Uncle Huck the grizzly and not his petting mama, he is absolutely ready to listen, and I have no more problems until the next time he visits. He generally remembers pretty quick, as I am low tolerance for bad behavior.

That's my only rule about kids. If they are at my house, they follow my rules. You can enforce that if you are there, but if you don't, then I will. I will never be cruel or mean, but children need to know how to behave.

I was always disappointed by the fact that my sister's kids would behave at my house but not at home. They knew right from wrong, but their mom let them get by with almost anything. Once upon a time, my niece was visiting and my sister suggested that she bring her new shorts. She looked at her mother (at age 7) and said "do you really think Huck would let me wear those?

I was proud and sad at the same time.