my first wife initiated divorce proceedings so she could marry her boss. alabama is a no-fault divorce state. nothing i could do about it, and i did not fight it because there was no point. it was a done deal in any case. so, technically, Matthew was not violated by me. my second - and 40-year-current bride - had not been married before, yet she chose me and my 4-yer-old daughter. pretty sure we are OK by Matthew ...