Jwalker i agree with your post. If she commits adultery and leaves you cant hold her in the marriage. When Charles Spurgeon first met D L Moody he was smoking a cigar.. Moody asked him how a man of God could be smoking a cigar. Spurgeon looked at him and said the same way you can be a man of God and be that fat. I don't find one human in the bible that is perfect. No man is an authority on another man's sins. Mathew 7: 15-20 gives you information that explains a few things.